Know Your Basics

2009-03-13T10:41:00.001-04:00

We have the shirts! they are finished and beautiful! let me know if you are interested in one....

sex contract

2009-02-19T08:24:00.002-05:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Wq5udytRN0

this video is pretty funny.... although seriously guys, you don't need a lawyer.... just make sure both sides of the party are comfortable...... or all three sides?

Tshirts!

2009-02-03T11:58:00.003-05:00

So, we have finally ordered and received our tshirts and are ready to start printing!
we will be putting our Basics logo on the front, and a "let's get consensual" phrase on the back. they will be black shirts with bright prints on them! We will be meeting at Rhino's on Tuesdays between 3 and 6 to start printing shirts. Each one will be hand made, so we are looking for anyone interested in joining us for a little while and making some shirts. Screen Printing is a really cool process and it should be a lot of fun. Not sure where Rhino's is? Follow our link to their site, where you can access info about their building, weekly programs held there, as well as weekend music shows.

Momma Said Knock You Out: The Concert

2008-12-16T15:50:00.004-05:00

A Basics benefit concert called "Momma Said Knock You Out" will be held on January 3, 2009. Bands performing are Elephant Quiz, Fire Engine Red, and Bryte Night. All are welcome for a night of music and dance. Resources will be available for those with questions regarding our cause. 8 p.m.-11 p.m. at Rhino's Youth Center in Bloomington, IN. $5 at the door.

New Logo!

2008-12-16T15:46:00.002-05:00

Got questions? We got answers.

2008-12-09T12:36:00.002-05:00

When staff at Middle Way go to the schools to talk about healthy relationships and sexual assault, they get lots of questions from the kids in the classes. We decided to take these questions and answer them on the blog so everyone can get the answers. We will be adding new questions every week. If you have a question about healthy relationships or sexual assault...let us know and we will get you an answer.

What are the legal ages for relationships?

Legally you must be at least 16 to give consent to have sex. You are not, by law, allowed to say yes to sex if you are under the age 16.

Is it better to help someone who is abused by telling an authority or to keep it to yourself and help them on your own so that they trust you more?

What is the situation? Depending on the circumstances, the answer to this question can vary. If you are worried about the safety of your friend, or your own safety, it is important to talk to a trusted adult. It is important to keep yourself safe in every situation, and not take on more than you can handle. If a friend has chosen to confide in you, it is essential that you keep that person’s trust and friendship, they have probably told you because they feel that you are safe. You can also always call the Middle Way Crisis line: (812)336-0846; the crisis line is open 24 hours and totally anonymous, and you don’t have to give your name.

Is it hard for people to leave an unhealthy relationship?

Yes. Often times people try to leave an unhealthy or abusive relationship but are drawn back to it for a bunch of different reasons.

Some of the main reasons:

· Fear of being hurt

· Love (sometimes you still love the person. That is totally normal. It happens with a lot of people).

· Afraid to be alone because their relationship has messed up their sense of self; they feel responsible for what is happening (but it is not their fault, it is the fault of the abusive person).

· One person in the relationship provides money, shelter, etc., which gives them control.

Exerpt from interview with author Paulo Coelho

2008-11-21T11:02:00.003-05:00

Question:
Your latest book, Eleven Minutes, wants to bring sexuality and spirituality to a healthier place. How can this happen?

Answer:
Well, by accepting that sex is a physical manifestation of God, and that it is not a sin - it is a blessing. And then by understanding that except for two things that I consider to be really sick - rape and pedophilia- you are free to be creative. It's up to you, how you do this.
Sex was always surrounded by taboos, and I don't see it necessarily as a manifestation of evil. I think that sexuality is first and foremost the way that God chooses for us to be here on earth, to enjoy this energy of love in the physical plane.

How do you feel about this perception of sexuality?

2008-11-19T18:03:00.003-05:00

Ok, so, to anyone reading this blog, you are one of the first people who have "found" us. we are currently working on getting our blog up and running, and it has a long way to go. thanks for reading.

our group, Basics, is just kicking off the ground and we have a lot of cool stuff planned. Coming up on January 3rd, we will have a benefit concert at Rhino's Youth Center (see their link in the "resources" list), with some awesome bands and probably some free stuff. There will be tables set up (Planned Parenthood, Middle Way House etc.) and people to talk to... come to hear the music, support the cause, and maybe even ask some questions while you're there.

BUT, this show isn't the only thing we are doing, also in the making:

screen printed tee-shirts and posters, the Basics' logo (in case you haven't noticed, we dont have one yet), an artistic mini-film of a date-rape story (the film will actually be used in classrooms but we don't want it to be hokey and stupid, so we will be putting a lot of work into it), and lastly, an art show that will probably happen sometime next semester... maybe spring break!

If anyone is in the bloomington/surrounding county area would like to help with any of these projects, (or has a suggestion of their own!), Basics would love your input... please feel free to contact us by any means nessesary.... thanks!

Stirring Domestic Violence Commerical

2008-11-18T15:28:00.002-05:00